Flirting and Emotional Well-Being: Insights for Couples

Flirting can spark more than just romantic interest. Experts suggest it benefits emotional well-being when practiced within appropriate boundaries. Mindy DeSeta, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist and mental health counselor in Miami, Florida, identifies flirting as an interpersonal experience signaling interest in another person.

An expert shared with Fox News Digital that flirting generally feels positive due to its emotional and physiological effects. It may trigger brain chemicals related to pleasure, reward, and social bonding, while also reducing stress hormone cortisol levels.

Flirting builds confidence, providing positive social interaction that improves self-esteem. DeSeta elaborates that people often engage in flirting to feel attractive and desired, which is a typical human reaction.

While flirting activates feelings of attraction, DeSeta advises it should remain between romantic partners or those considering a romantic relationship due to the release of bonding hormones.

Those who find themselves flirting with someone outside their relationship may notice a warning sign regarding their current relationship status. DeSeta suggests consistently dating and flirting with your partner to maintain a healthy connection.

Feelings of staleness or hollowness in a relationship might prompt someone to seek external sources of flirtation. According to DeSeta, redirecting this energy back into the relationship can help. Engage your partner with sentiments like, “I miss this about us. Let’s bring it back.” Sharing desires for feeling attractive and desired can re-kindle relational intimacy.

When Flirting Fades

Anna Elton, Ph.D., a licensed marriage and family therapist, observes that couples often miss the playful beginnings of their relationships. As responsibilities such as schedules, errands, and childcare increase, elements like affection, physical touch, and playfulness might become less frequent, creating room for stress and resentment.

Body changes, aging, and stress can also influence how confident or desirable partners feel. Elton asks long-term couples about how they express their desires, finding many do not flirt naturally.

Elton emphasizes that creating a new language of flirting can help rekindle the intimacy in relationships.

Bringing Back the Spark

Elton recommends small gestures to rebuild a connection, such as a 20-second hug or six-second kiss. Self-care practices like skincare routines can also enhance personal connection, boosting intimacy.

Timing remains crucial for flirtation. DeSeta advises being mindful of your partner’s mood and activity. Avoid flirting during stressful tasks and gauge your partner’s receptiveness through positive body language.

Partners should openly discuss appropriate moments for flirting to strengthen their bond.

The insights of DeSeta and Elton highlight flirting’s role in enhancing emotional well-being and strengthening romantic relationships.